Couples need to find an equilibrium, and they need to work
out tensions. But in the midst of an escalating discussion, with passion
growing, you may note that the elements of the discussion have been lost and both
parties are speaking hurtful nonsense (fool-talking). Arguing for the sake of
arguing, and this is a very destructive place to be. When anger has entered
into the discussion and throttles it like the space shuttle challenger, it is
going to explode. Wherever the disagreement may have begun, if you find it is
moving into verbal jabs for the sake of harm, it is time to take a break. The
devil works within the confines of your anger. He eggs you on to try and
destroy for the sake of destruction. He particularly wants to break godly
fellowship.
“Do not give the Devil a foothold” (Eph 4:27)
Break away from the inferno and allow yourself and your
combatant a period of calm. It is in the quiet time away from the maddening
heat that the Spirit will offer refreshing water again. But you must seek His
water; Talk to the Father. Take a walk and pray, and the devil’s lies will
start to unwind. Even if you are the
only one that does this, you will be in a better place to diffuse the bomb that
still awaits you when you return. The devil destroys. God builds. And with the
Spirits light your pride will diminish and that which angered you will seem so
much smaller than it did previously.
